My dad is really struggling with his treatment and I was thinking of maybe asking if I could go with him to chemo. Have your parents let you? I’m just worried he won’t want me to because he keeps telling me to not worry about him. Would it be selfish of me to tell him I feel so useless and it would be helpful if I could do anything for him? I don’t want to guilt him but I also do want to spend any time I can with him.
Hey IslanderMP – I think it would be an awesome idea if you asked your dad! If he really doesn’t want you there, then do your best to not take it personally (I’m sure he just wants to protect you from what you might see and how it might upset you). Definitely talk to him about it and explain why you want to go!
I currently try to go with my dad to his treatments and I think its been really good. Sometimes he lets me know when he wants to go alone and I try my best to respect that. Usually when I’m there we play cards or try to find a new show to watch. There are good days though and there are bad. I do understand why your dad might not want you to go – sometimes chemo flies by and others it is a tough road with complications, nausea and many other miserable side effects. Also, it can be tough being surrounded by other ill cancer patients. You see some people who look wonderful but you also may catch a glimpse of a very frail, sick person who can make you worry if that will be your dad one day.
All that being said, all you can do is ask and explain to your dad what you want and what you’re thinking! Give it a shot!